Come As You Are Consent and “Enthusiastic Maybe”

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This week, Emily answers a question from her producer, Mo, about consent. Mo and her girlfriend are considering a new sexual experience but they’re not both an “enthusiastic yes” on the idea. Mo’s girlfriend joins the conversation, and they delve into the idea of “enthusiastic maybe” in consent and how to handle all the comfortable, joyful, and consensual “maybes” that can come up in sex. A heads up before listening: in this conversation, we touch on difficult topics such as coercion and manipulation in sex. If this episode brings up some feelings for you, check out our resources below.

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The Host

Emily Nagoski

Emily Nagoski, host of Come As You Are, is the award-winning author of the New York Times bestseller Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your…